would be the last one, but based on some comments, I think a follow-up might be helpful.
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I'm gonna have to disagree on a few points, while i agree with the sentiment in principle that gays should form a different institution.
First, marriage is already used with multiple meanings. For example it can be used to describe two separate factions or ideas compromising, "the marriage of big "C" and small "c" conservatism." Marriage is also occasionally used to describe superposition of two objects, "His head was married to the ball." There are others, but i can't think of them right now...
Santa is marry and Marry had a little lamb spring to mind.
I guess the problem with this use is that it is sooooo close to the original. It dilutes what it meant when i got married into something different, that I do not welcome. I never thought i'd have to anticipate saying, "I am married," only to have someone ask, "To a man or woman?" which really seems to underly that something is being taken from me...
Something I value.
Posted by: at June 24, 2005 09:17 PM (0AQqd)
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I'm gonna have to disagree on a few points, while i agree with the sentiment in principle that gays should form a different institution.
First, marriage is already used with multiple meanings. For example it can be used to describe two separate factions or ideas compromising, "the marriage of big "C" and small "c" conservatism." Marriage is also occasionally used to describe superposition of two objects, "His head was married to the ball." There are others, but i can't think of them right now...
Santa is marry and Marry had a little lamb spring to mind.
I guess the problem with this use is that it is sooooo close to the original. It dilutes what it meant when i got married into something different, that I do not welcome. I never thought i'd have to anticipate saying, "I am married," only to have someone ask, "To a man or woman?" which really seems to underly that something is being taken from me...
Something I value.
Posted by: Brad In Barrhead at June 24, 2005 09:17 PM (0AQqd)
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Everything you have said makes sense and is correct but gay marriage is the wedge that will be used to destroy religion- any religion in this country and around the world. There can only be one force behind that kind of objective.
Posted by: Brian Walsh at June 24, 2005 09:24 PM (vAI+5)
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"If homosexuals do not need to be monogamous, then a homosexual "marriage" is just a mimicry of heterosexual marriage"
This is somewhat dangerous reasoning. This means, for example, if the husband in a marriage finds out that he can never be a father for whatever reason, since he "does not need to be monogomous," their marriage is just a mimicry of a "real" marriage. In fact, it seems that once any married woman reaches menopause (if she has no children), her marriage would automatically mimic a "real" marriage.
Posted by: Mid at June 24, 2005 09:24 PM (pTXYq)
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We seem to be hung up on refining a "definition". This is more of counting angels on the head of a pin. I defy you to define "quality". Attempting to do so drove Pirsig into a rubber room in Motorcyle Maintenance.
Look, we have this innate "definition" of marriage. Indeed it is centered on reproduction, and the very special and complex arrangements that are its biological consequences. No matter how dearly it is desired, gays and lesbians will not be able to emulate that fundamental social building block. Biology defies it.
What can take place is the very precise definition of something else, which includes provisions for the financial implications and guardianship implications of this new kind of formalized relationship.
I will never consider it marriage, not ever. No amount of scrutiny and smithing of the definition of 'square' is going to alter the shape of a square peg.
That leaves the legal intricacies of resolving the various "what-if" scenarios as people form new kinds of relationships to be hashed out. These same issues resolved as a matter of discovery of the legal consequences of marriage provides a convenient template. But a square peg is still going to be a square peg even after all that.
Posted by: Shaken at June 24, 2005 09:46 PM (Mzobe)
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Mr. Right and I came to a decision this evening. We were married in a civil ceremony in Scotland, because we figured "Hey, married is married, right?" But if this bill is passed, what we considered a marriage will effectively become a sham to us. So we have decided that we will be married, probably on our anniversary next year, in a church. A proper wedding, with a priest to call this man and this woman married. Because if it is only the churches (some churches) that recognize marriage for what it truly is, then that's where we must go.
Hey Angry, you free that day?
RG
Posted by: RightGirl at June 24, 2005 10:00 PM (bdiSz)
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RG - I've been toying with the idea of taking that whole recognition a step further: what if religious institutions that refuse the sham 'marriage' being imposed by C-38 would launch a counter-offensive by completely dropping the M-word and coming up with a new one? Simplistic? Perhaps, but it could prove symbolically powerful -- and would bug the hell out of the secular fundamentalists.
Posted by: Linda at June 24, 2005 10:45 PM (oCPrU)
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"Tied to that obligation are the biological consequences of failing to meet that obligation. Those consequences are pregnancies from relationships outside of the marriage bond, and the resulting personal and social fallout."
Do you know what an STD is?
I noticed in your article # 1 that you say you tune out people who talk about rights. Tune out now.
What do you say about the rights that come with marriage, that are, if not denied to homosexual couples, are very and unfairly hard to get? I'm speaking of next of kin, power of attorney, and the such....
The argument that marriage is a device to conceive and raise children is an argument created out of necessity to frame the anti-SSM debate in a logical light. Unfortunately for you nice folks, once that arbitrary foundation is exposed (for clearly, no law stipulates the birthing or raising of children as a requirement or even goal of marriage), the entire argument upon which your stance lies comes falling down.
Doesn't much matter, though. This isn't the US, and come Monday, or soon after, SSM will be legal. And just like 'not hanging blacks' and 'not having legal homosexual sex', you will soon catch up the social progressivity of the rest of Canada. And just maybe, after a while, you'll stop thinking gays want to harvest the sex organs of your children.
Posted by: Gordon Stephens at June 24, 2005 11:24 PM (TCY35)
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Linda said: "RG - I've been toying with the idea of taking that whole recognition a step further: what if religious institutions that refuse the sham 'marriage' being imposed by C-38 would launch a counter-offensive by completely dropping the M-word and coming up with a new one? Simplistic? Perhaps, but it could prove symbolically powerful -- and would bug the hell out of the secular fundamentalists."
Wouldn't bother me at all.
The reason us 'secular fundamentalists', whatever that term means, want SSM to be SSM and not SSCU, is because of the name itself, not to rain on your religious party. What the churches provide is a service, but all the rights of marriage come not from the Churches, but from the state.
You could have your... whatever you'd call thems in a Church, but they'd be meaningless without a marriage certificate.
Posted by: Gordon Stephens at June 24, 2005 11:30 PM (TCY35)
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Linda: “There ought to be two distinct kinds of marriage: one governed by the State with rules enforced on all citizens, the other governed by the Church with rules enforced by her on her own members. The distinction ought to be quite sharp, so that a man knows which couples are married in a Christian sense and which are not.”
— C.S. Lewis, British essayist, author, cleric
Posted by: DJeffery at June 24, 2005 11:34 PM (jTENw)
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Gee Gordon somehow the thought that marriage is associated with children seems to me to have been around long before I heard of SSM. But yes I can see your point that people would get together and say lookee we have to come up with a reason to ban gays from getting married so why not say that marriage is about having children and creating a family. Yes what a novel idea.
Yes SSM is legal next week. They can make you say Anything but they cant make you believe it.
Posted by: MikeP at June 24, 2005 11:36 PM (p000C)
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Socially Progressive = You Agree With Me.
Give me a frigging break, Gordon.
OK, since I am not 'progressive', I stake my claim on 'sensible'.
There you go Gordon, you're 'socially progressive', while we're 'socially sensible'. Works for me? Work for you?
Posted by: Shaken at June 24, 2005 11:42 PM (Mzobe)
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>What the churches provide is a service, but all the
>rights of marriage come not from the Churches,
>but from the state.
Look, you're obviously not a historian, so let me clue you in. No. You have it totally backwards. A marriage is something which occurs in a church, before God. What the state confers upon 2 people is a recognition of a social contract, a legal binding partnership of two people. Churches don't get rights from the state on this issue, the Church pre-dates the state on this issue, and it was only in the middle ages, the late middle ages actually, that the state began interfering in the practice of marriage in the Church (with such wonderful state practices as prima noctis for example). A state chooses whether to recognize such a partnership, and that's done to protect both parties from abandonment of the partnership. Divorce is essentially a breach of contract hearing.
What happens in a Church is not derived from anything the state provides. The state is frankly the least important actor in a marriage, the most important actor is God, the second most important actors are the fiancees and the third most important are the congregants. What occurs is a sacrament of the church, that two people become one flesh, and there's a mystery to it, observed and lived out in the community of the congregants.
My solution to this whole issue is very, very simple. Get government out of the marriage business entirely. Government should legally bind people who choose to enter into a 'civil union' or a 'domestic partnership', no romantic love should be required, and thus the governments interest of protecting parties who are linked in some form or other would be respected, and all current marriages would fall under this category. To get married you'd go to church, but it would have nothing to do with recognition of that event by the state, for that you'd go to a government office, fill out a form and have it notorized.
As an added benefit, imagine two older sisters, both seniors, both unmarried or widows. They've lived in the same house for years, what happens when one gets sick? Well, they do not have spousal rights in the health care system, so treatment options and all the stuff married people have doesn't benefit them at all. And, further, when one dies, the property doesn't transfer smoothly, the survivor could lose their electricity and the like, they'd be forced to pay expensive and unaffordable estate taxes on a mutually owned property because it was in the name of the deceased, and probably have to sell the place. My compromise platform would solve this problem by allowing these two to become legally bound under the law with all the associated rights and obligations.
>whatever you'd call thems in a Church, but they'd
>be meaningless without a marriage certificate.
A religious ceremony is only meaningless to the uninitiated. Ask yourself this, if religious marital ceremonies are so meaningless, then why are gays pushing for blessing ceremonies in the Anglican church in BC? Why do they flock to unitarian and the metropolitan church in Toronto for ceremonies rather than just going to the Justice of the Peace? Precisely because meaning exists beyond the sterile governance of a contractual arrangement.
Marriage occurs in a church. Period. The government chooses to recognize them or not.
I'd also like to point out that the purpose of C38 is not to extend a right to gays. That right has already been established by courts in nearly every province.
The purpose of C38 is to declare war on religion in Canada, and its already beginning:
- Bishop Henry, of Calgary is being forced to defend himself in court against two human rights complaints related to a pastoral letter he sent to churches, which was later reported and transcribed in a newspaper. Two people read the article and letter in the newspaper and filed a complaint.
- BC and Manitoba marriage commissioners are being told that if they do not solemnize gay marriages, against their conscientious objections, they will be terminated.
- Chris Kempler, a teacher and guidance counsellor at a school in northern BC who was disciplined by his professional body, the B.C. College of Teachers for writing letters to the editor of the local newspaper denouncing the schoolÂ’s teaching on homosexuality. The B.C. Supreme Court upheld the discipline and said that Kempling was not entitled to the protection of the Charter.
If this was about 'rights' (which it isn't, gay people have the same rights as everyone else, even including the rights which marriage would affect) then more than 30% of people in Canada would support it. But it isn't and they don't. It is about the gay lobby trying to foist its views upon the rest of society and trying to force them to 'celebrate' their views, which is a violation of the freedom to hold religious views and the free practice thereof, and the free speech provisions of our constitution. We are literally watching our fundamental freedoms as citizens get eroded before our eyes and the law hasn't even passed yet. When it does... look out, the gay lobby has an army of lawyers chomping at the bit.
Posted by: Paulm at June 25, 2005 12:47 AM (GSEkq)
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Linda said: "RG - I've been toying with the idea of taking that whole recognition a step further: what if religious institutions that refuse the sham 'marriage' being imposed by C-38 would launch a counter-offensive by completely dropping the M-word and coming up with a new one? Simplistic? Perhaps, but it could prove symbolically powerful -- and would bug the hell out of the secular fundamentalists."
Words are only a tool to communicate thoughts, concepts, ideas, etc. The word marriage brings a particular understanding or concept to people based on how it is used and what it has meant in the past. For example the word ice cream brings the concept of a certain product. If we decide to change the meaning of that word to say include yogart -- it is no longer the same concept of product that comes to mind, and now we have no way of saying ice cream other than to create a new word for it or to use a sentence instead of a word to describe what we are trying to communicate. The thoughts and concepts haven't changed we just no longer have a way to communicate until someone eventually comes up with another word or group of words to say what we are thinking. (Like now I have to say "I want the old kind of ice cream" instead of just saying I want ice cream to convey the same thought. So if the gay community changes the word "marriage" it doesn't change what people are thinking only limits there ability to communicate what they are thinking. So when someone from say India is learning English in Canada and they ask "how do you say the union of a man and a women" we will have to answer we don't really have a word for that (yet). Then because it is so tied to our values eventually we will find a new way of expressing it. I say let them create a new word for the type of union they have and define it any any terms they think expresses what it means and leave the existing word alone. If you change the definition of the word, it and what it meant is no longer the same. If they want what marriage is, they can't get it by changing the definition because in changing it , it is no longer what they wanted.
It looks like we might have to find a new word, but for the life of me, I can't think of what it could be - that would say the union of one man and one women quite as well as marriage does.
Posted by: Eavon at June 25, 2005 01:46 AM (FWPCU)
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Spiritual aspects aside, government 'marriage' is about property and children. The present government-run 'marriage' regime imposed on unsuspecting young couples is not considered very wise or fair by older couples who have bought expensive homes and second homes for lawyers in Whistler.
So if the 'gay' set want in on buying BMW's and yachts for lawyers because they 'partnered', the lawyers certainly won't mind.
Anyone visiting divorce courts over the past two decades knows that 'marriage' as per government involvement is now a dirty word, so nothing is lost or gained by imposing this dirty word on 'gay' couples. The price of 'equality' is often to end up in the same mess everyone else is in.
'Marriage' has been ruined by Liberal social engineering, as the Cools Commission clearly showed. If you want to 'defend marriage', go back to the Cools Commission Report.
As it stands, this government-run racket for lawyers at the expense of children, families, and men and women, called 'marriage' is a carriage only a fool would want to get on. 'Gay marriage' won't harm that word. The harm has already been done over two decades where lawyers take 30% of family assests in an uncontested divorce, and 50% of the inheritance belonging properly to children in a contested divorce.
Stop waxing idealistically about the word 'marriage' in Canada under Liberal social engineering government control. The ideal is that aspect which is forever outside government control, and all that lawyers and government have done is destroy trust, which is the foundation for love.
Posted by: edward mills at June 25, 2005 01:59 AM (c4Z9/)
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All this deep [but admittedly entertaining writing on SSM] is so simply solved.
Marraige is child based and is called Marraige. Civil Union is adult based and is called Civil Union or Civil Bond. Finis.
SSM affects about 1% of Canadians. Bill C-38
WB law affects 100 % of Canadians in a major way. Bill C-11
Whistle-Blower legislation is immensly valuable and protects our national wealth no matter who is in power. Check BendGovt.blog.ca
Dragging feet in the USA also on WB law.
Check www.nswbc.org and Lewrockwell.com.
WB is also an agenda for the UN.
Most Canadians have no idea of it's immense value. Applies to much more than just monies.
We should all scream for C-11. It's great.
73s TG
Posted by: TonyGuitar at June 25, 2005 05:12 AM (rmMzv)
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Well, there is a lot to respond to, so I'm not going to repond in quote form, I'll just use points. If you feel I ignored something vital, lemme know.
1) I stated that there is no law or stipulation saying that marriage is about having children. None of you came back and told me there is actually a law (due to there not being one). Now, I can understand that what most of you wish to preserve is a traditional definition of marriage. In a traditional sense, marriage can be said to include children as a priority, at least in most societies.
Now, the problem is that this is irrelevant to the courts, and to law. Laws and courts are not based on traditions, which are abstract and entirely subjective, but on reasonings which are acute and provisionally subjective.
2) I didn't mean to say that religious marriages, as performed by a church without the awarding of a marriage licenses, are completely meaningless, and I apologize for any misunderstanding. I mean only to say that legally, they are meaningless. Without a state sanctioned license, there are no legal rights that come along with marriage. You cannot go to a church, get married, and then suddenly have power of attorney. You need to get a marriage license, from the government.
So, in this respect, there are two different types of marriage already. One is done in a church by some religion or another as a traditional blessing or ceremony. The other is done in order to grant legal rights to the couple, and that is done by the government.
The big hangup for a lot of social conservatives is that it's called 'marriage'. Well, tough. The Bible doesn't have a copyright on the word.
3) It was said that the state is the least important factor in marriage, but that God is. This is just silly. Which God? Which faith? Which sect or cult or church or interpretation? The reality is that while you may personally believe God is the most important factor, other people do not. My parents are not religious, and dare I say that God didn't grant them next of kin powers, the Government of Canada did.
Your personal God may be very important in the traditional blessing of a church marriage ceremony, but it has nothing to do with the rights afforded you with marriage.
Those are the main 3 points I see, I'll respond to some individual snippets to flesh it out a bit.
Shaken: "There you go Gordon, you're 'socially progressive', while we're 'socially sensible'. Works for me? Work for you?"
I don't mean it as an insult, I mean it as a categorization. The very word progressive means to push new ideas and new definitions. The word conservative means to preserve the past (it also describes appealing to tradition).
Changing the definition of marriage is certainly progressive. Keeping the old definition is certainly conservative.
Paulm: "Look, you're obviously not a historian, so let me clue you in."
Marriage was not invented by Christians. It wasn't even invented by Jews. Choke on that for historical fact.
The truth is that defining marriage around the Christian god is arrogantly ethnocentric, and is only happening because Christianity became the largest religion in Europe. To frame the debate as such is not only an affront to non-Christian people, it is an affront to the supposed cultural mosaic of Canada.
In respect to the ethnocentricity of this framing of the debate, it's good to point out that if the Scandinavians had of maintained control of Europe, Thor would be the most popular god, and we'd get rid of the dead in funeral pyres, not graves. Framing the debate like this doesn't happen because it is true, but because Christianity is the dominant religious force by historical contingency, and historical contingency alone.
Paulm: "Marriage occurs in a church. Period. The government chooses to recognize them or not."
Marriage is approved by the state. Period. The church chooses to allow a ceremony or not.
Paulm: "I'd also like to point out that the purpose of C38 is not to extend a right to gays. That right has already been established by courts in nearly every province."
But not all, and this is what the SSM bill will rectify.
You discredit your first sentence with your second sentence. Please, show a little consistency.
Paulm: "The purpose of C38 is to declare war on religion in Canada, and its already beginning:
- Bishop Henry, of Calgary is being forced to defend himself in court against two human rights complaints related to a pastoral letter he sent to churches, which was later reported and transcribed in a newspaper. Two people read the article and letter in the newspaper and filed a complaint."
That happened a long, long time before C-38. This isn't even an ergo propter hoc fallacy, it's just a lie.
Paulm: "- BC and Manitoba marriage commissioners are being told that if they do not solemnize gay marriages, against their conscientious objections, they will be terminated."
So? Their jobs are to do x. When they refuse to x, they are refusing to their jobs. Why should the government pay someone to not do their job?
x can be anything.
I feel the same way about pharmacists who do not give out birth control, and teachers who don't teach sex education or evolution. I know that if I didn't do my job, I'd be fired, so I expect the same of others.
Paulm: "- Chris Kempler(sic), a teacher and guidance counsellor at a school in northern BC who was disciplined by his professional body, the B.C. College of Teachers for writing letters to the editor of the local newspaper denouncing the schoolÂ’s teaching on homosexuality. The B.C. Supreme Court upheld the discipline and said that Kempling was not entitled to the protection of the Charter."
Again, this happened long before C-38.
I agree with that ruling, and let me tell you why. Kempling did not just write into the paper. He wrote into the paper and used his authority *as a teacher* to promote his views. He wrote that he could not *teach* impartially about such vsubjective notions as 'promiscuity' and 'immorality'.
Now, if Kempling had of written his letters as a citizen, I'd be 100% on your side. He did not, however, but wrote as a teacher. For all intents and quite a few purposes, this is equivalent to taking it into the classroom.
"If this was about 'rights' (which it isn't, gay people have the same rights as everyone else, even including the rights which marriage would affect) then more than 30% of people in Canada would support it. But it isn't and they don't."
Gay people do not have equal access to those rights. As I originally wrote, to get the same rights, gays have to, unfairly, go through many legal hoops, and pay many legal bills. That is blatantly discriminatory.
Also, you invented the 30% number. The country has been split right down the middle on gay marriage since it first became a hot topic. When you make stuff like this up, you lose a lot of credibility. Don't try to sneak stuff like this by me, I take nothing you say as truth before I verify it.
"It is about the gay lobby trying to foist its views upon the rest of society and trying to force them to 'celebrate' their views, which is a violation of the freedom to hold religious views and the free practice thereof, and the free speech provisions of our constitution."
Typical rhetoric.
They aren't demanding that people celebrate their views. They are demanding that you respect the Charter, and the rights it affords them. You don't have to go to a gay marriage, or watch a gay pride festival or even walk on the same side of the street as a pair of dudes holding hands. However, it will be *you* who doesn't attend the marriage, *you* who doesn't dance on a float in a gstring, and *you* that crosses the street. Forced to celebrate them? Not a chance. Forced to respect them, you betcha.
"We are literally watching our fundamental freedoms as citizens get eroded before our eyes and the law hasn't even passed yet. When it does... look out, the gay lobby has an army of lawyers chomping at the bit."
Yes, fear the gay boogeyman!
They want equality, and its that equality that you are unable to handle.
To you, anything that is contrary to a Christian world is anti-Christian. To you, rights are only rights if you approve of them.
You're a hedonist, and God is your drug.
Edward Mills: Gays are destroying marriage? Why is it that the most conservative Christian denominations have the highest divorce rates? Seems that when you look at the facts, it's the godless atheists and secular humanists that are propping marriage up. Here's a link for US data on the topic: http://www.religioustolerance.org/chr_dira.htm
Posted by: Gordon Stephens at June 25, 2005 06:13 AM (TCY35)
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"So? Their jobs are to do x. When they refuse to do x, they are refusing to their jobs. Why should the government pay someone not to do their job?"
Everytime i hear a statement like that, it reminds me of war criminals on the stand saying "I was just following orders". Many of the people who became marriage commissioners did so before there was any such thing as gay 'marriage'. That being the case, should they be forced to go against their conscinece now? Or change jobs? Some of these people might be 2-3 years away from retirement, and by your statements, it's okay to fire them or make them resign if they can't sleep at night because they're forced to do something that goes against their beliefs. Yet you say it's not a war on religion? Or faith? Or beliefs? Now who has the blinders of rhetoric on?
Anyway, in regards to changing the name of Marriage to bring it back to it's true sense, in Arkansas they have "Covenant Marriages". Religious only, requiring one year of study on what marriage and family means, and you cannot get a divorce on grounds of irreconcilable differences, which is good. I'm so sick of hearing about disposable marriages. Basically, you can't split up for any reason except abuse. Even if a partner cheats, you must prove that you've explored all channels of counseling (religious or otherwise) before you can call it quits, and it's a long and arduous process? Sound familiar? It should. That's what marriage used to be, before the state said it was okay to be married for less time than it takes to walk back from city hall.
Perhaps we'll go to Arkansas.... No, wait, can't do that. Bill Clinton.
Oh well, it was a thought!
RG
Posted by: RightGirl at June 25, 2005 07:25 AM (bdiSz)
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Lots of good stuff here. But I'll add a few bits.
First, marriage and children. It is true that today we don't dissolve childless heterosexual marriages. However, in the past, that's exactly what happened, and I suspect in some places, it still happens. The fact that we don't do it today actually has weakened the institution, though I'm not suggesting we re-institute the practise. But I am saying we must not lose track of the fundamental basis of marriage. Couplings that are a priori childless (ie, same-sex) don't meet the standard for marriage.
I don't think marriages were ever dissolved with menopause. First, in times past, not many women would live that long, given human lifespans then. And second, by this time they'd would quite possibly be grandparents. Married couples were not meant to be an ongoing baby factories. After having children, they were supposed to raise children, and then grandchildren.
Does marriage belong to the churches? I'm not convinced. Marriage predates organized religion -- sorry, but everything I've read suggests this is true, and it also makes logical sense. In fact, I think you need marriage to form a stable society, from which point you can have communities, and then a priest class, and then religion (depending on your point of view, at that point humans could invent religion, or humans were ready for divine revelation). Marriage moved into the religious sphere, true, but even without religion, the biological underpinnings of marriage are still true. In fact, in my arguments, I never refer to religious justification for the form of traditional marriage.
On the word "marriage". If we allow the same word to label same-sex and heterosexual unions, we are faced with a problem. We either use the same word for two very different kinds of unions, and possibly two different sets of rules (for instance, if the obligations are different). That's fine for English -- many words are allowed to have multiple meanings. It is, however, a legal nightmare, where the general rule is that a word has a specific legal meaning. If "marriage" labels two vey different institutions, soon one side or the other will sue for discrimination, seeking to have an odious obligation rescinded on the basis that it is not universally applied.
And they'd be right.
Alternatively, we make sure "marriage" means the same for everyone in legal terms. That means either applying rules that make no sense to one kind of coupling in order to preserve it for the other (a situation rioe for a legal challenge) or we reduce marriage to what few aspects that are in common. Marriage would become a financial association, since monogamy and rules regarding children could not be universally applied.
Posted by: Angry in T.O. at June 25, 2005 08:59 AM (LtsTC)
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What question is most likely to be put to young married couples?? Chances are they will tell you, we are always asked when are we starting a family.
See Gordon you can twist marriage to mean what you think it should but you will never take away the real meaning. And somehow you think that the word marriage is going to mean a whole new respect for the gay lifestyle. You are dreaming in technicolor.
Bishop Henry happened before C-38?? The pastoral letter was only written because the Feds are trying to legalize SSM which is bill C-38.
Marriage is social policy and not a right.
Posted by: MikeP at June 25, 2005 09:05 AM (p000C)
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>It was said that the state is the least important
>factor in marriage, but that God is. This is just
>silly. Which God? Which faith? Which sect or cult
>or church or interpretation? The reality is that
>while you may personally believe God is the most >important factor, other people do not.
In a real marriage, instead of a contract of convenience, God in the most important actor between the two people. That goes for any faith group around the world. Christian, Jew, Muslim, Sihk, Hindu, or miscellaneous.
>Your personal God may be very important in the
>traditional blessing of a church marriage
>ceremony, but it has nothing to do with the rights
>afforded you with marriage.
The benefits the government chooses to endorse on relationships have nothing to do with marriage. A marriage is not simply saying 'I do' and getting all sorts of 'rights', any view that describes marriage as that is describing something else.
>Marriage was not invented by Christians. It wasn't
>even invented by Jews. Choke on that for
>historical fact.
So? Christians and Jews share the same spiritual heritage (which Islam later adopted as its own too), and with the greater integration of societies in the late middle ages and into the age of exploration, that view became gradually adopted worldwide. Prior to that the concept of marriage varied far and wide (and to a certain extent there still are tremendous differences), and the near uniformity of world cultures on marriage is a direct result of stuff which happened in Europe.
>The truth is that defining marriage around the
>Christian god is arrogantly ethnocentric, and is
>only happening because Christianity became the
>largest religion in Europe. To frame the debate as
>such is not only an affront to non-Christian
>people, it is an affront to the supposed cultural
>mosaic of Canada.
For a guy who seems to like quoting logical fallacies, check out your own argumentio ad hominem. Anyone who doesn't agree is 'ethnocentric' and 'arrogant'. Just wait, next post you'll say I'm homophobic too.
The fact is the current worldwide practices of marriage are much more uniform than they were even 500 years ago. Those practices have been altered from their initial local patterns by contact with the European west. That's not 'eurocentric', thats called cold, hard, historical fact.
>But not all, and this is what the SSM bill will
>rectify.
C38 has no authority to tread on the domain of the provinces in determining who they grant marriage licenses to. This bill will not force any province to do anything (especially given the notwithstanding clause).
>That happened a long, long time before C-38.
>This isn't even an ergo propter hoc fallacy, it's
>just a lie.
Bishop Henry's state sanctioned witchhunt began after he wrote a letter to his churches in January 2005, and in direct response to C38. The letter was later released to the media after media made several requests to see the letter. After they printed the letter, two members of the gay lobby pressed a human rights commission complaint against him, that happened in Februrary. On March 29, 2005 he submitted his response. So, we're talking about an event less than six months old, in direct response to C38. So...who's the liar?
>He wrote into the paper and used his authority
>*as a teacher* to promote his views.
"2. Everyone has the following fundamental freedoms:
a) freedom of conscience and religion;
b) freedom of thought, belief, opinion and expression, including freedom of the press and other media of communication;
c) freedom of peaceful assembly; and
d) freedom of association."
That's from the Charter of Rights.
So, explain to me this: Why should we extend a right to marriage to gay people, 'because its in the charter' (which it isn't but...), but we should roll back a person's right to freedom of belief, thought or opinion?
Here's a guy that has a view you don't like. So, what do you try and do? Destroy him. Whatever happened to our so-called value of 'tolerance'? You want people who disagree with same-sex marriage to tolerate your view, but you refuse to extend the same tolerance to the other side?
>As I originally wrote, to get the same rights, gays
>have to, unfairly, go through many legal hoops,
>and pay many legal bills.
But you're arguing with the wrong guy, remember I want to extend those rights to anyone who wants to avail themselves of the governments sanction of their relationship, romantic or not, and that includes gay people. I just don't want it called marriage because that denigrates a sacrament of the church.
>Also, you invented the 30% number. The country
>has been split right down the middle on gay
>marriage since it first became a hot topic.
The polling numbers very much depend on the way the question is posed:
If the question is:
"Do you support strongly, support somewhat, oppose somewhat or oppose strongly keeping
the definition of marriage as a union of one woman and one man to the exclusion of all others?"
The results are: strongly support 50%, somewhat support 16%, somewhat oppose 12%, strongly oppose 22%.
I'm sure you can add.
If you phrase the question:
Suppose you had the following three options. Which would you prefer?
(1) Parliament should keep the existing definition of marriage as the union of
one woman and one man and should not pass any law recognizing same-sex
union (29%)
(2) Parliament should keep the existing definition of marriage as the union of
one man and one woman and should set up a separate legal category that
includes same-sex unions but would not be called marriage (36%)
(3) Parliament should change the legal definition of marriage to the union of any two persons, regardless of their gender (35%)
In that poll, only 35% agree with the contents of C38.
http://www.compas.ca/data/050202-SameSex-EPC.pdf
>When you make stuff like this up, you lose a lot
>of credibility. Don't try to sneak stuff like this by
>me, I take nothing you say as truth before I
>verify it.
I eagerly await your apology.
>They aren't demanding that people celebrate their
>views. They are demanding that you respect the
>Charter, and the rights it affords them.
Show me where in the charter is says that gay people have the right to marriage. Please.
>You don't have to go to a gay marriage, or watch
>a gay pride festival or even walk on the same
>side of the street as a pair of dudes holding hands
Ah yes, 'the anyone who is opposed is a bigot' gambit. It may surprise you, but I have several gay friends. I'm not the least bit homophobic. The problem is that this bill will be used to try and force religious people into doing what the gay lobby wants, regardless of their deeply held convictions.
The Gay lobby (see equalmarriage.ca) is already pledging to use C38 to try and force clergy to marry them, to force them to rent their facilities for their ceremonies and to attempt to end any tax breaks they might get if they don't comply.
>They want equality, and its that equality that you
>are unable to handle.
Gay people are already equal under the law. If you rob a gay person you get charged with theft. If you punch a gay person you get charged with assault. If you refuse to serve a gay couple in a restaurant you will be civilly prosecuted for discrimination. What you call 'equality' is real code for forcing everyone to agree and celebrate their sexual preferences, and it means an erosion of free speech and freedom of expression and opinion, all of which are GUARANTEED by our charter of rights, so who is REALLY about protecting the charter?
>To you, anything that is contrary to a Christian
>world is anti-Christian.
That's kind of funny since my prior post didn't ever even use the word. That's a straw man and you know it.
>To you, rights are only rights if you approve of
>them.
Another straw man. Ever heard of the charter of rights and freedoms? I actually am very much in favour of it. I'd LOVE to see government actually learn to allow the free practice of religion, belief, opinion, speech and expression.
>You're a hedonist, and God is your drug.
And you end of with another argumentio ad hominem (and its also a straw man).
Posted by: Paulm at June 25, 2005 12:16 PM (2YGUB)
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Marriage is an ABSTACT noun. It has real meaning only in the minds eye, the IDEA of marriage is like the IDEA of hope, courage, dispair etc. A COMMON noun like hat and coat are not IDEAS, they are things. English is a rich, expressive language but the IDEA of marriage is forever in the minds eye, 'the union of one man and one women to the exclusion of all others' ; sorry SSM supporters you CAN NEVER rule on the minds eye view. This has been so since women refused to be assulted by rogue men who were not willing to support the inevidable consequences of their actions. Women in cultures who were deemed them "slaves" and of no consequence except as servants to men took this covenant to FORCE this arrangement on men. The bartering of women for dowery and beauty INSISTED on marriage so any childern would not be abandoned for offspring from another woman. Lovers have always been a man's preferable choice because there are no strings attached to 'shack- up' arrangements. Love has become the 'romantic' bases for the union of a man and a woman but the root of the definition is practical. If our state enforces a law that allows men to abandon the women that bear their childern in favor of a partnership with other men who will never claim their freedom and time for the messy business of raising childern then women are 'cooked'. Women cannot ever have the freedom enjoyed by men IF they want a family; if ALL women do NOT want a family then the planet earth is cooked. This bill is NOT practical and it defies the abstraction of the minds eye view. I have often wondered what it is about and my sad conclusion is that it is about the dehumanization of the human race. Test tube, generically engineered humans who grow up in human 'greenhouses'. The term human will have no meaning to the little 'robots' who do the 'states' bidding without question. Where did this minds eye view come from? oh yes, 1984. Mr. Orwell was a few years off - in Canada. Let this beautiful country be the FIRST to embrace the unthinkable existance of George Orwells 1984. Way to go, Canada!!!
Posted by: Jema54 at June 25, 2005 04:03 PM (zihZh)
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RightGirl: "Everytime i hear a statement like that, it reminds me of war criminals on the stand saying "I was just following orders". Many of the people who became marriage commissioners did so before there was any such thing as gay 'marriage'. That being the case, should they be forced to go against their conscinece now? Or change jobs?"
Yes, they should leave. Do their job, or leave. Social conditions are not a constant, and people who are intolerant need to either overcome it while at work, or find new work.
It is unfortunate that they have to choose between their prejudices and their income stability, but it is not uncommon.
Angry in T.O.: "Marriage moved into the religious sphere, true, but even without religion, the biological underpinnings of marriage are still true. In fact, in my arguments, I never refer to religious justification for the form of traditional marriage."
Excellent points, but I disagree that marriage needs to be restricted on biological grounds. It's undeniable that there is a plethora of rights gained through marriage, and in the interests of equality, those rights must be available to all people.
Perhaps Paulm's idea for removing marriage licenses from purely intimate relationships makes a lot of sense in this regard.
Angry in T.O.: "It is, however, a legal nightmare, where the general rule is that a word has a specific legal meaning. If "marriage" labels two vey different institutions, soon one side or the other will sue for discrimination, seeking to have an odious obligation rescinded on the basis that it is not universally applied."
I don't follow that one. The institution of a gay marriage is exactly the same as the marriage of a barren couple.
Legally, marriage is going to be the same for straights or gays, so no legal problem will arise.
Paulm: "In a real marriage, instead of a contract of convenience, God in the most important actor between the two people. That goes for any faith group around the world. Christian, Jew, Muslim, Sihk, Hindu, or miscellaneous."
I disagree. My parents are married, and are not religious. God is not the most important to them, they do not even believe he exists. What is most important is each other, and their family.
Once again, you attempt to artificially frame the debate in terms of God.
Paulm: "The benefits the government chooses to endorse on relationships have nothing to do with marriage. A marriage is not simply saying 'I do' and getting all sorts of 'rights', any view that describes marriage as that is describing something else."
As I've said, there are two different marriages. One done by the state, which is exactly what you say marriage is not, and one done by a religious institution, where God may or may not be the most important (I say may not, because many couples get married in a church simply to please their religious relatives).
Paulm: "Prior to that the concept of marriage varied far and wide (and to a certain extent there still are tremendous differences), and the near uniformity of world cultures on marriage is a direct result of stuff which happened in Europe."
Incorrect. Solemn vows arose independently in Asia, Australia, Africa, etc, and they all look the same in most respects.
Paulm: "For a guy who seems to like quoting logical fallacies, check out your own argumentio ad hominem. Anyone who doesn't agree is 'ethnocentric' and 'arrogant'. Just wait, next post you'll say I'm homophobic too."
I said your argument was arrogant and ethnocentric, not you.
Paulm: "The fact is the current worldwide practices of marriage are much more uniform than they were even 500 years ago. Those practices have been altered from their initial local patterns by contact with the European west. That's not 'eurocentric', thats called cold, hard, historical fact."
It is still historical contingency. If we want to talk about logical fallacies, look up "appeal to tradition."
Paulm: "C38 has no authority to tread on the domain of the provinces in determining who they grant marriage licenses to. This bill will not force any province to do anything (especially given the notwithstanding clause)."
Actually, it will. This is precisely why Ralph Klein is so miffed. As for using the notwithstanding clause, that is political suicide.
Paulm: "So, we're talking about an event less than six months old, in direct response to C38. So...who's the liar?"
Ah, you are entirely right, I apologize. I googled the name, and came up with some stuff from 2003. Again, I am sorry.
However, it is still not a cause of C-38. If he had of said the same thing without referencing C-38, there'd probably still be a complaint. Until the complaint has been processed, it's impossible to make assumptions on what is going on.
Paulm: "So, explain to me this: Why should we extend a right to marriage to gay people, 'because its in the charter' (which it isn't but...), but we should roll back a person's right to freedom of belief, thought or opinion?"
Mr. Kempling does have those rights. He made those comments, however, in conjunction with the invocation of his teacher status. It is for this that he was punished. The college of teachers is within their rights to enforce tolerant behavious, and Mr. Kempling broke those rules. As I said, if he had of simply wrote the paper as "Mr. Kempling", he'd have been fine, and I'd have defended him if he was shut down by the courts. What he did was entirely different.
Paulm: "Here's a guy that has a view you don't like. So, what do you try and do? Destroy him. Whatever happened to our so-called value of 'tolerance'? You want people who disagree with same-sex marriage to tolerate your view, but you refuse to extend the same tolerance to the other side?"
I am tolerant of his views. It is the college of teachers that is not tolerant of his invocation of their name in a publically available anti-homosexual letter.
Huge difference.
Paulm: "In that poll, only 35% agree with the contents of C38.
http://www.compas.ca/data/050202-SameSex-EPC.pdf"
Here's a site monitoring the trends over the last decade, with links to sources: http://www.religioustolerance.org/hom_marz.htm
One from April: http://tinyurl.com/dktz4
An SES poll from this month: http://tinyurl.com/ac9un (PDF)
I am unsure why Compas disagrees so consistently to all other polls. It is obviously the odd one out.
Paulm: "I eagerly await your apology."
You used the source which agrees with you, while all others have contradictory results. Shame on you.
Paulm: "Show me where in the charter is says that gay people have the right to marriage. Please."
Read the court ruling yourself.
Paulm: "Ah yes, 'the anyone who is opposed is a bigot' gambit. It may surprise you, but I have several gay friends. I'm not the least bit homophobic. The problem is that this bill will be used to try and force religious people into doing what the gay lobby wants, regardless of their deeply held convictions."
It's been cemented in the law that religious institutions will not have to give marriage ceremonies to gays if they do not wish to. This law only affects marriage. Anything else is culture.
Paulm: "The Gay lobby (see equalmarriage.ca) is already pledging to use C38 to try and force clergy to marry them, to force them to rent their facilities for their ceremonies and to attempt to end any tax breaks they might get if they don't comply."
Forcing them to perform ceremonies will never happen.
Losing tax exempt status for discrimination... I don't know the legality behind that. I doubt a court would make that decision, though. Courts are smart to avoid being political pawns, as seen by them making the government change the definition of marriage.
Paulm: "Gay people are already equal under the law. If you rob a gay person you get charged with theft. If you punch a gay person you get charged with assault. If you refuse to serve a gay couple in a restaurant you will be civilly prosecuted for discrimination."
And if they go to a marrage comissioner in Alberta, they will be denied. Inequality.
just because they are equal in most respects does not mean they are equal in all respects. Until they are equal in all respects, there is inequality in the law.
Paulm: "What you call 'equality' is real code for forcing everyone to agree and celebrate their sexual preferences, and it means an erosion of free speech and freedom of expression and opinion, all of which are GUARANTEED by our charter of rights, so who is REALLY about protecting the charter?"
The courts, by forcing the governments hand to bring equality to all people in Canada.
Paulm: "That's kind of funny since my prior post didn't ever even use the word. That's a straw man and you know it."
I can read between the lines, and I stand by it.
The arguments you present are simply mirroring those used in the US, where Christians constantly proclaim that because there are secular schools and laws, that Christianity is being attacked.
The law is secular, and it will remain secular. Before secular law, we had the Dark Ages.
Paulm: "Another straw man. Ever heard of the charter of rights and freedoms? I actually am very much in favour of it. I'd LOVE to see government actually learn to allow the free practice of religion, belief, opinion, speech and expression."
Hilarious, since you brought up using the notwithstanding clause to defeat gay marriage earlier.
Paulm: "And you end of with another argumentio ad hominem (and its also a straw man)."
My only ad hominem, actually, and I freely admit it.
Posted by: at June 25, 2005 04:26 PM (TCY35)
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Next step, those that care will start going outside the country to have a religious "renewal of vows" ceremony. Why? Because the legislation renders all marriages in this country meaningless...
Posted by: SilverLining at June 25, 2005 06:48 PM (0g5pl)
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"And if they went to a marriage commissioner in Alberta they would be denied. Inequality"
If two sisters went looking for a license to get married they too would be denied. Is that inequality?
Posted by: MikeP at June 25, 2005 07:17 PM (p000C)
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Silverlining is absolutely correct. I had not thought ahead to that obvious result. Marriage in Canada would be meaningless then.
Marraige is child based. = Marriage
Civil Bond is Adult based.= Civil Bond
Now on to bill C-11. The Whistle-Blower Protection bill that protects all Canadian's interests, no matter what party is in the Ottawa driver's seat.
See why = BendGovt.blogca Also underway in the USA = www.nswbc.org 73s TG
Posted by: TonyGuitar at June 25, 2005 07:42 PM (rmMzv)
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"Forcing them to perform ceremonies will never happen."
How long ago was it that it was being said that gay marriage would never happen? After all, this is just the next logical step, isn't it? The gay population has fought (and rightly so, and with my full support) for safety and security under the law, to avoid discrimination, to avoid hate crimes, to have crimes against them deemed as such. They are a protected population, far more so than the average Joe on the street, and I never took issue with that. But where did the sudden hard-on for marriage come from? Why is it so important that it be called marriage when a civil bond will do just fine? If I wasn't married, and because I have no next of kin at all (everyone dead), I could post my best friend as power of attorney over my affiares, which she was up until I married. Were we lesbians? No. Did we have to get married for me to make her my legal guardian? No. I went to a notary, signed a paper, $75 later I knew I was in good hands, and that she would look after my legal, financial and health affairs if I was unable to. I also had her signed as sole beneficiary to my insurance policy which I had through my employer. When the employer asked if we were "involved", I said no, so therefore she was unable to receive health insurance through my company. Who had the more rights? If we had been gay, she would have had dental! So what is the problem in going along in that way? Sounds to me like you have good protection and rights under the law.
RG
Posted by: RightGirl at June 25, 2005 08:37 PM (bdiSz)
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Marriage (with the captial "M") is a sacred bond between a man and a woman, that is intended to result in children (the product of true communion between the two sexes)--marriage is something that religion created to mimic the bond God has with his people and the communion that man has with God, and that religion must be a part of.
Marriage is, by definition, not a right guaranteed to anyone by any government--its is extended to people for a reason. Tax breaks and property rights are given to men and women in marriage to make it easier for families to exist--those families don't come into existance when both partners are of the same sex, like A.T.O said.
Love is not, though, the only requisite for marriage. I love a lot of things. I can't marry them. In some churches I can, but the state has the absolute right to determine the qualifications of marriage. I can't marry someone under 16. I can't marry my brother. I can't marry my cousin. I can't marry my pet guinea pig, and I can't marry another girl. All legal, and all regulations that the state can rightfully enact.
Marriage is a privilege, not a right. To make marriage a right it to want special treatment. Nobody is guaranteed by the state to have their marriage recognized, especially if it is outside of the governments specified parameters. To ask the government to specifically recognize marriage between same-sex partners is asking for more privileges than are guaranteed to others--its not just allowed, its protected.
I do not diagree that the the right to be next-of-kin in a hospital may be an exception to that (I am unsure as to what the current position on that is, but I think people are able to name their next-of-kin, or grant people certain people certain rights through legal means), but the other rights, again, exist for a reason, and they aren't necessarily rights that homosexuals cannot get by making agreements between themselves. Yeah, you can contract.
I agree that premarital sex and divorce have compromised the meaning of marriage in recent times, but that doesn't undermine the definition of what marriage is. True marriage is something that can only be acheived in the most traditional sense--the relgious sense (and if the couple cannot have children, the object of the sexual union does not change. It is procreative, and unitive, and miracles always happen. Always)--it can never be achieved by same-sex partners.
Even if they get the right of marriage. Its a sham. They will never have what a real Marriage has. They can't.
Posted by: E.M. at June 25, 2005 10:39 PM (EUi9o)
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Quote
"RightGirl: "Everytime i hear a statement like that, it reminds me of war criminals on the stand saying "I was just following orders". Many of the people who became marriage commissioners did so before there was any such thing as gay 'marriage'. That being the case, should they be forced to go against their conscinece now? Or change jobs?"
Yes, they should leave. Do their job, or leave. Social conditions are not a constant, and people who are intolerant need to either overcome it while at work, or find new work." Quote
Job discriptions are basically constant though. Normally, governments don't change their employee's job discription. They don't fire them when they fail to meet a changed job discription. They especially don't change job discriptions specifically designed to exclude the person presently doing it. They wouldn't get rid of the wheelchair ramp at the office to force all those unable to walk to quit. I guess that would only be " a changing social condition". That's discrimination. It's persecution. It's anti-Christian. These people are doing the job they were hired to do.
How many same sex marriages have there actually been in the last 2 years of Canadians? Maybe a 1000. (Foreign visitors married here don't count.)So out of 400,000 potential gay couples, .25% have gotten married. Most of those are people who have waited all their adult lives for this opportunity, so presumably there was a pent up demand. So in a normal year, Manitoba is going to see 50 same sex marriages of Manitobans. So basically, marriage commissioners have been fired for refusing to do a job they would never have to do in the first place, that is marry people of the same sex. The odds of it actually happening are very small. However, the government had a chance to purge itself of Christian employees and took it.
You laugh at the anti-Christian accusation. Yet this is what we have now and what we didn't have 2 years ago. Fines. Malicious lawsuits. Loss of employment. Loss of livlihood. Loss of freedom of speech. AND you and your ilk are ok with all that. Basically when you're finished with us the only jobs we'll be able to do are clean your toilets and grow and prepare your food.
Posted by: PlaidShirt at June 25, 2005 11:56 PM (sfFSu)
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>They don't fire them when they fail to meet a
>changed job discription. They especially don't
>change job discriptions specifically designed to
>exclude the person presently doing it.
Actually, the term for this is 'constructive dismissal', and it is illegal. If they do this, its highly likely the fired people will sue and unless the gay lobby weighs in, they will likely win a sizeable settlement from the government.
>Once again, you attempt to artificially frame the
>debate in terms of God.
And once again, you are failing to understand the spiritual significance of the word 'marriage' in the church. Think about words like 'communion' and 'baptism', that is the spiritual significance of 'marriage'.
>It is still historical contingency. If we want to talk
>about logical fallacies, look up "appeal to
>tradition."
Its not an appeal to tradition, you were disputing my historical statement, I affirmed its veracity, that's not an 'appeal to tradition', its a history lesson.
>As for using the notwithstanding clause, that is
>political suicide.
No, it isn't. The notwithstanding clause is there for a reason, and parties have used it in the past and will use it in the future to disregard a reckless federal government or judiciary which seeks to legislate by fiat in a provincial matter.
>Ah, you are entirely right, I apologize.
You get kudos for admitting it. Respect.
>If he had of said the same thing without
>referencing C-38, there'd probably still be a
>complaint.
If there was no C38, there'd be no letter.
>Until the complaint has been processed, it's
>impossible to make assumptions on what is going
>on.
Oh, I can tell you what's going on; someone's feelings got hurt, and so they launched a nuisance suit. Someone voiced an opinion that they didn't agree with, so they filed a complaint. Its ridiculous. The human rights commission system is rife with nuisance complaints of this sort, forcing the innocent using their lawsuits to financially damage those they disagree with. The human rights commission needs to have civil penalties for those whose complaints are found to be unmeritted.
>Mr. Kempling does have those rights.
If he has no right to exercise them, then he doesn't actually have the rights.
>As I said, if he had of simply wrote the paper
>as "Mr. Kempling", he'd have been fine, and I'd
>have defended him if he was shut down by the
>courts.
All he said was: "I'm a teacher and I think this". That's free speech and should be protected. Further, as a professional body, the BCCT is required to follow the charter, something they've failed to do on other cases (See Trinity Western v. BCCT a ruling from the Supreme court that they fail to respect), as his right to free speech is a charter right, the BCCT has no right to censure him for exercising it away from the school.
>I am tolerant of his views. It is the college of
>teachers that is not tolerant of his invocation of
>their name in a publically available anti-
>homosexual letter.
If he said: "my view represents the view of the BCCT" then he'd be guilty of defamation by misrepresentation, but he never said anything like that. All he said was: I am a teacher, and this is my opinion. That's an exercise of free speech, and he's not passing his opinion off as representative of the BCCT. The fact is the BCCT does not tolerate anyone who disagrees with them (again, see TWU v. BCCT).
>I am unsure why Compas disagrees so
>consistently to all other polls. It is obviously the
>odd one out.
ok, first off... your 'religioustolerance' link data is from 2002 or earlier, so let's not even use that dataset, its outdated. The first tinyurl link is from the CBC, and does not give us any understanding of the question involved. Given that the CBC is full of BS most of the time I'm not even going to acknowledge the poll there. If you can find the actual poll question and results we can discuss them. The SES data is more interesting. The Question is not very good, its too broad. It only allows for a yes/no/unsure/no opinion, rather than demarcating competing views. For example, to that question I'd be torn as to whether to respond yes or no. After all I *DO* think such relationships should be legally recognized. I don't think that they should be called marriages though. Remember, I think government's role should be as an arbiter of a contract between two parties, nothing more. There's no wiggle room in the question. Its geared to push any 'civil unionists' into the camp of support for gay marriage, which they really aren't. If you were to pose the question as 'do you support C38 as presently written as the best way to address the issue of same-sex marriage' you'd get a much lower percentage in support because the civil unionists would say 'no'.
The data is very hard on this question. About 40-50% outright oppose same-sex marriages in any form. Another 20-30% support civil union rights, but not using the term marriage, while only 30-40% support same sex marriage fully. That data is pretty much constant in every poll.
And its not just compass.
http://cnews.canoe.ca/CNEWS/Canada/2005/01/27/911547.html (Decima)
http://www.enshrinemarriage.ca/english/news3.aspx (Nordic Research group)
http://www.ipsos-na.com/news/pressrelease.cfm?id=2491 (only 39% support C38 by this poll)
The word marriage should apply exclusively to the legallyrecognized union of a man and a woman
35 %
The word marriage should also apply to the legally
recognized union of two men or two women (28%)
The word marriage should apply exclusively to the legally recognaized union of a man and a woman and there should be some other legal term for the legally recognized unionbetween two men or women. (36%)
(Ipsos Reid - not available online unfortunately)
http://www.nfocfgroup.com/news/03.09.05-samesex-charts.pdf
NFO CF (read page 13) basically the same as the IPSOS results above except they find 37% support for gay marriage, 37% for a legal union not called marriage and 19% no gay marriage at all.
So, compass is obviously not the 'odd one out'.
>You used the source which agrees with you, while
>all others have contradictory results. Shame on
>you.
I actually was citing two polls from two different organs, I merely only had a link to the compass one. So, I await my apology once more.
>Read the court ruling yourself.
If it is a 'Charter' right, shouldn't it be *IN* the charter? You know, like say... 'Freedom of expression, thought or opinion'?
>It's been cemented in the law that religious
>institutions will not have to give marriage
>ceremonies to gays if they do not wish to.
The liberals have long since proven themselves to be completely untrustworthy on such matters. As such the supposed protections for religious people are essentially the equivalent of legislated toilet paper. Within a year those provisions will be tested in court and repealed by activist judges prodded by activists in the gay lobby.
>Forcing them to perform ceremonies will never
>happen.
Oh, it will. One year. Mark my words.
>And if they go to a marrage comissioner in
>Alberta, they will be denied. Inequality.
And if they have poor eyesight and go to a driving test they will fail. Your point?
>The courts, by forcing the governments hand to
>bring equality to all people in Canada.
The abuse of the courts is eroding the freedom of speech, thought, expression and practice of religion in the country, all fundamental freedoms in the Charter. The job of the courts is to enforce the Charter, not to amend it.
>I can read between the lines, and I stand by it.
Not very well.
>The arguments you present are simply mirroring
>those used in the US, where Christians constantly
>proclaim that because there are secular schools
>and laws, that Christianity is being attacked.
To the best of my knowledge, no priest or bishop in the US is facing legal action for writing a letter to his congregants. No churches are being sued for failing to rent their facilities for gay weddings (already happening in two provinces), no teachers are being pilloried for expressing their rights to free speech and no marriage commissioners are being constructively dismissed for exercising their conscience. This is not about the US because religious people in the US are not under attack like they are here. In the US the religious right is saying: 'If we don't exert ourselves the slippery slope is coming.' Here religious people are saying: 'We are already seeing the assault on our rights, its not a slippery slope, we're already halfway down'.
>Before secular law, we had the Dark Ages.
The charter starts off: "Whereas Canada is founded upon principles that recognize the supremacy of God and the rule of law:"
The basis for all western democratic systems is inherently theistic. There is no such thing as 'secular law', except as the possible outcome of a Canadian tragedy.
>Hilarious, since you brought up using the
>notwithstanding clause to defeat gay marriage
>earlier.
The notwithstanding clause was put into the constitution for a reason, and there is nothing illegitimate about using it, particularly when the federal government passes legislation which intrudes on the fundamental freedoms of others.
Posted by: Paulm at June 26, 2005 02:10 AM (2YGUB)
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All of the above arguments are interesting. Allow me to try a different tack here.
The attack on traditional marriage is driven mostly by cultural relativism at its most militant. If gender roles and marriage behaviours are determined by cultural imperatives, why shouldn't we constructively change those imperatives to remove the inequalities of life? Equal rights for all, etc. etc. Best of all, because everything is "relative", we can do this and there will be no negative repurcussions. All cultures being equally valid and all that, don't forget.
As an anthropology major back in the 1970's I was presented with all this stuff, and my reaction after considerable though was "So why is it the white people of Europe drive cars and have antibiotics while the Yanomami drive crappy dugout canoes and have magic instead of medicine that works?"
Some cultures are more powerful than others. Not some races, I hasten to add, because culture is not genetically determined. Culture is what a human being uses to make up for the shortfall between his physicallity and the environment.
So I think it is with marriage. There are hundreds of styles of marriage recorded in the world's cultures, some include same sex couples as a possibility. Key point here, most of those cultures are no longer extant, the ones that are still around don't invent the electric light or win big wars. Our form of marriage confers a competetive advantage upon our culture compared to the other ones.
Just to kick a little more sand in the SSM crowd's face, let us consider the protective effect of the traditional Western marriage against the HIV virus, compared to sub-Saharan African marriages. African men in certain localities tend to have more than one wife in different little towns. They visit each one for a while, then move on to the next. while the woman maintains the household and rears her children. (Yes it is true, but by all means go look it up. Try some of the AIDS in Africa sites.) Women may have more than one husband too. This situation is made for spreading HIV. African HIV numbers reflect this.
Western style monogamy is quite the reverse, even monogamy that tolerates occasional male cheating with prostitutes. The chances of a male contracting HIV from a one time sexual contact are low compared to changing steady partners every couple of months. This is reflected in the North American and European rates of HIV among married couples.
As with HIV, so with all the other historically fatal STDs. Western traditional marriage is a powerful cultural tool for ensuring a child has two parents that live long enough to see him/her to adulthood. Far more powerful that other, more casual arrangements. Our culture "knows" this too, if one can say such a thing. Consider that the word "b@st@rd" will still get your butt kicked in most bars across the country.
Thus it can be said, it ain't all relative. Some things work better than others, our form of marriage works better than any existing alternative.
Screwing up a powerful traditional institution which keeps our country healthy because it suits the short term political purposes of a few radicals would seem to be quite amazingly stupid. Typically Liberal, in other words.
The Phantom
P.S. Cultural relativists will please include some kind of compelling, measurable science in their reply postings. Good luck with that.
Posted by: The Phantom at June 26, 2005 02:52 PM (nAMT1)
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All this deep [but admittedly entertaining writing on SSM] is so simply solved.
Marriage is child based and is called Marriage. Civil Union is adult based and is called Civil Union or Civil Bond. Finis.
SSM affects about 1% of Canadians. Bill C-38
WB law affects 100 % of Canadians in a major way. Bill C-11
Whistle-Blower legislation is immensely valuable and protects our national wealth no matter who is in power. Check BendGovt.blog.ca Cuts down Govt. dipping.
Govt. also dragging feet in the USA on WB law.
Check www.nswbc.org and Lewrockwell.com.
WB is also an agenda for the UN.
Most Canadians have no idea of it's immense value. Applies to much more than just monies. Makes something interesting out of this important but boring topic.
We should all scream for C-11. It's great.
73s TG
Posted by: TonyGuitar at June 26, 2005 11:44 PM (rmMzv)
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Rarely have truer words been spoken than when you said "reason and logic seem to be in short supply in this debate". Good post Angry!
Posted by: Jason M at June 27, 2005 10:15 PM (Kwrb7)
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Marriage is child based and celebrate the potentila for new life only possible in opposite sex relations.
SSM is like the Special Olympics - it makes a small group of people very happy but really has little meaning in the end.
Posted by: davey at June 28, 2005 11:02 AM (sNNre)
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It is a bit strange to see "conservative" journals promoting the Marxist line.
From THE MANIFESTO (does it have anything to do with Canada today? Hmmm... Let's see!):
"Bourgeois marriage is, in reality, a system of wives in common and thus, at the most, what the Communists might possibly be reproached with is that they desire to introduce, in substitution for a hypocritically concealed, an openly legalized system of free love." - K.M.
"Nothing is easier than to give Christian asceticism a socialist tinge." - K.M.
"The charges against communism made from a religious, a philosophical and, generally, from an ideological standpoint, are not deserving of serious examination." - K.M.
"The communist revolution is the most radical rupture with traditional relations; no wonder that its development involved the most radical rupture with traditional ideas. But let us have done with the bourgeois objections to communism." - K.M.
"CONSERVATIVE OR BOURGEOIS SOCIALISM [Red Tories?] -- A part of the bourgeoisie is desirous of redressing social grievances in order to secure the continued existence of bourgeois society. To this section belong economists, philanthropists, humanitarians, improvers of the condition of the working class, organizers of charity, members of societies for the prevention of cruelty to animals, temperance fanatics, hole-and-corner reformers of every imaginable kind." - K.M.
"The Communists everywhere support every revolutionary movement against the existing social and political order of things. ... They openly declare that their ends can be attained only by the forcible overthrow of all existing social conditions." - K.M.
Aaaah, if only Marx were alive to see the Canadian Parliament vote on Bill C-38!
In the undying words of Friedrich Engels, "If only Marx were still by my side to see this with his own eyes!"
But no. Excuse me. Let us move on to "more important things" than the bedrock of all human society.
"This guy must be obsessive compulsive! Why such a fuss about people getting married? It's not like it's important or anything."
Posted by: Brian O'Neill at June 29, 2005 03:47 AM (IC8Z8)
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You are all a bunch of bigots and will burm in hell. Read your bible and you will find the truths of peace, love, and understanding.
Love,
Jesus
P.S. Beware of wolves in sheeps clothing. You know, people like Jerry Falwell, Ralph Reed, and George W. Bush.
Posted by: Jesus Christ at July 20, 2005 12:29 AM (NP3vn)
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Make everyone equal in the eyes of the government ”tax man”.
Everyone gets taxed as an individual including children. In the case of children they could either be used as a tax break or if they are earning an income taxed themselves.
It used to be we were all equal in the eyes of god. Those days are gone what with politics and taxes being the main concern. Or you could look at it as the government being god. Thus taxes are equal and on an individual basis.
Personally I would be willing to give up some of my tax breaks as a married hetero sexual, to protect the sanctity of marriage. I was married in a church and swore my oath for better or for worst to my wife not for financial gain or tax evasion but because I truly loved my wife! Love you HUN!
Now as for the “For better or for worse” part I think I got the better end of that deal, but who’s counting not me I’m winning LOL.
Petition protect sanctity of marriage and make everyone equal in the eyes of the tax man. Exception being children get or can be used for tax break much the same as they are today.
Posted by: NL Expatriate at October 02, 2005 03:32 AM (z7JgX)
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